How Long Does It Take To Work Through the Stages of Grief?

Does Father’s Day cause you to grieve all over again?

There is no right way to grieve.  There is no time limit on grieving.

The rest of the world may want you to “get over it” and rejoin the living, but you will grieve until you have allowed the grieving process to heal you.

That can be challenging, because grief hurts so much it feels like it will kill you.  It is hard to “allow” an emotion that feels so harmful.

It is hard to allow the stages of grief.

Denial feels so much better than grief within the moments that your heart is breaking.

Lena was very close to her family.

Her parents had a very deep love, and they shared that Love with her and her younger sister.

When her Father passed, her Mother wasn’t far behind.  She said she knew her mom wouldn’t stick around without him.

Lena felt orphaned.  Her grief was so deep and wide that she thought it would swallow her whole.

Lena’s sister passed only a few years after her parents, and then Read more

Assisted Suicide: Does Death Sound Like Your Best Option?

While checking one of my statistic tools, I noticed that someone found their way to my blog through Google, by typing in the question:

“How do I get someone to kill me for free?”

I have no way of knowing the circumstances around this individual’s wish, but the thought made me sad.

Assisted suicide sometimes feels like the best way out of suffering.

Losing the activities you love really robs your quality of life.  Lose your independence and you may feel ready to leave your body.

Bring on pain and suffering, and the temptation to control the circumstances of your death becomes increasingly attractive.

I’m not one to spend time debating whether or not assisted suicide should be legal, because I choose to focus on what CAN be done to improve life.  There may be a place for that discussion, but it won’t be on this blog.

My purpose for blogging is two fold

#1– to help you understand that you must take care of yourself or you will pay the consequences.

#2– to bring you the urgent message that your body has an amazing ability to heal, so don’t count yourself out.

If you have lost your health, the medical industry wants to drug you and keep you alive while you deteriorate from your illness. Therefore, it seems impossible to believe that the return of your health is even possible.

Feeling Better May Be As Simple As:

• proper nourishment
• focused joy
• plenty of healthy activity.

Assisted suicide is a final, irrevocable decision… you never know what is possible.

People of all ages and situations consider suicide when they reach their limit.

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2. Take deeep breaths
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Could A Free Obituary Template Make Your Life A Little Easier?

As a caregiver you are a hero.  Period.

It may feel like a thankless job much of the time.  However, you know the value of your daily routine.

Your days are one task after another.  If you aren’t organized, or have a particularly scattered day, you are chasing your tail, aren’t you?

Without your routine, and the rhythm of the day, you and those you care for are just not going to get the nurturing you normally are able to give seemingly without effort.  (You make it look SO easy!)

Frustrating isn’t it?!

When there is a death in the family, life is dumped upside down.  Your routine is out the window.  Getting things done becomes a challenge.

Utilize every resource you can find.

You will find many that will make your life a whole lot easier, and your memories much more easy to gather.

Free obituary templates can be very helpful.

You will find them by clicking on the links below Read more

Are You Mourning the Loss Of Your Loved One Before Their Death?

Death is a part of life.  When someone you love dies, your life  goes on without them.

Alzheimer’s Disease and dementia can effectively take your loved one from you.  Though your lives go on, the person you loved is gone.  They are no longer who they were.  Someone else is living with you.

Grieving for the loss of a loved one that is not dead is a heart wrenching kind of pain.

Do you feel angry and sad? Read more

Will Community Resources Make Your Life Happier?

Are you feeling isolated and alone?

Would you like to feel connected to the world outside your door?

It doesn’t matter if you are young or old, building a support system can be challenging.

If you have reached the point of feeling isolated, you need to take quick action to plug yourself in and get the support you need.

Community Resources may be the answer.

Online communities like this one, can offer great resources and contacts that will enrich your life.

The inter-net has the amazing ability to connect you with people all over the world.  There is, however, no substitute for real, flesh and blood, people in your life.

This blog offers education and resources to help you make positive change in your diet and life style.

Has your health care practitioner encouraged you to make changes?

Do you know what diet and lifestyle changes look like?

You know that you should be eating less junk food and more fruits and vegetables.  The couch potato lifestyle is certainly not health building.

So how do you get from the couch to activity, and McDonald’s to the produce isle? Read more

Is the Joy of Christmas Casting a Shadow of Depression On Your Holiday Season?

Are you finding yourself feeling depressed this holiday season?

In every culture, there are special days that bring back memories of home and loved ones.

Those special days can feel bitter sweet when you are dealing with loss.  The pain becomes intensified.

You don’t want to deal with happy people because you just can’t feel happy.  There is just no faking it.

Do you just wish the holidays were over?

Somehow, when the world is celebrating, loneliness is magnified.

John was a patient of mine for many years.  He absolutely loved the holidays.

His devoted wife was a beautiful energetic lady who was always busy doing something creative.  She had an unbelievable garden, lots of cats and dogs, she loved to bake and used to have a delicious care package to give me whenever I visited.

Every Christmas, she turned their home into a winter wonderland.  It was quite a treat, since the hot humid Hawaiian afternoon just didn’t feel like Christmas to this Montana girl!

I have fond memories of sitting at their kitchen table drinking hot cocoa with candy canes.  (With the air conditioning, it almost felt like winter!)

I remember Ida telling me about her challenges making her traditional Christmas dishes without salt.  John really looked forward to the family celebration, but usually ended up in the hospital before the new year.  To much salt, wine, and fun always did him in.

John would say, “Ida, I’m only gonna live once, it wouldn’t be Christmas without your famous Christmas dinner!”

Every year with the house looking like a post card, the two of them would greet their kids, grand-kids, and extended family for the wildest celebration you have ever seen.  My favorite part was singing Christmas carols by the bonfire.

Their family was full of so much love, you could feel it in the air.

Five years ago, John passed away a few days after Thanksgiving.

Ida faced her life without him.  She couldn’t celebrate the holiday.  Her family tried everything to get her to join them at their homes, or even a Christmas vacation for the whole family. Read more

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